Saturday 13 November 2010

The Bedroom and Rekindle Passion With Your Spouse

There was once a time in your relationship with your spouse when you couldn't keep your hands off each other. A kiss was always special, you both got restless when you were apart, and you could not wait to be in each other's arms.
So does it make you wonder sometimes where have all that passion gone? Now it seems like private moments are just another thing on your do list. Is there hope for a ho-hum marriage? Of course, there is, that is if you and your spouse are both willing to work on bringing back romance and passion into your relationship. Oftentimes, it is the demands of daily living that put a strain on your relationship and can make the fire of enthusiasm dwindle.
Demands from children and work, stress over finances, daily frustrations are often the culprits that push your relationship back into the long line of priorities that you have to deal with everyday. The only way to get the flame back, really, is to commit to finding quality time with each other. This means private time, away from the other hundred things that you have to pay attention to, and all the mundane daily tasks that need to be done. You can do this by having a weekend away from the kids and other distractions like phone calls from the boss. Check in at your favorite hotel or a place distant from where you are staying, preferably a place where there is not much to do except enjoy each other's company.
You can do a lock-in with your spouse at the honeymoon suite of your favorite hotel, where you would have to keep the door locked for the weekend. Bring back the vigor in your sex life by spending time away from all the usual demands of your life and focus on giving your spouse pleasure. You can share a couple's massage in some nice and relaxing spa, or you can also simply buy some aromatic oils and give each other massages.
Two of those distractions in the bedroom are the television and the computer. So when you get home, you should try to switch off both every time you want some private moments with your spouse.
Before heading back home, you can go to a coffee shop and spend some time discussing whatever made your relationship fall into a boring rut. This is not a time to be putting blame on each other, but just a period of reflection which will make you both understand mistakes that you should prevent from happening again.

loveandmarriage: Your Husband Falls Out Of Love? what to do.

loveandmarriage: Your Husband Falls Out Of Love? what to do.: "When your husband falls out of love with you it can be an incredibly tough time - and you won't want to put up with it, and will search..."

Your Husband Falls Out Of Love? what to do.

When your husband falls out of love with you it can be an incredibly tough time - and you won't want to put up with it, and will search on ways on how to win your husband back. This is a good thing - it means that you are the active type and you will simply not sit back and wait while your marriage gets even more in trouble and your husband wants a divorce. At this point it's imperative that you learn the difficult phase you are going through in your marriage isn't very surprising - in each marriage such trouble takes place, because things in everyday life can bring even the best relationship down. Whether the marriage is actually going to end or not depends on how active you are in trying to win your husband back and save your marriage.
To get on track on how to win your husband back, the first thing you have to learn is to acknowledge the changes that occured in both you and your husband, compared to the first time you were married. It is completely natural that sometimes couples can be detached from each other - no one can be supposed to feel the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. What you need to know is that in men, these things happen differently. When you feel that your husband is falling out of love with you; you, as a woman, want to fix this situation as soon as possible. Whereas your husband, being a man, isn't as comfortable about discussing emotions as you are, and he would just like to sort it out himself by sitting around nad waiting. Just by waiting a man's love for his husband can come back. This means that to win your husband back you need to restrain yourself from making him talk about his feelings every time you think he is falling out of loev with you. If you force your husband to say that he doesn't love you anymore, this can have dire consequences; as men operate very differently and the mere physical utterance of that will make it a reality for him. You don't want that - just give your husband some space if you want to get your husband to love you again.
While you give space to your husband and leave him alone, you can use this time to focus upon yourself to win your husband back. A very important occurance in marriages is that as women, we put our own needs, hobbies, likes and dislikes to one side, and focus upon our family's needs. However, doing this forgoes the "real" relationship you have with your husband - the reason you married - which is the fact that you are your husband's romantic partner. Forgetting this role might be why your husband falls out of love with you. So, a good way on how to win your husband back is to focus on yourself and pick up some new interests and hobbies, and devote some time to yourself in which you will only chase "your dreams". This will make your husband realize that you are still that lively woman he married, and will regain his interest.
Even if both spouses love each other sincerely, at times they might find themselves getting more and more distant from each other and getting close to a divorce. But like me, you too can take some steps into saving your marriage and turning it into a satisfying relationship.